ILUVAdrianaLima Posted April 18, 2017 Share Posted April 18, 2017 ^ I HIGHLEY doubt this Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cult Icon Posted April 18, 2017 Share Posted April 18, 2017 2 minutes ago, ILUVAdrianaLima said: ^ I HIGHLEY doubt this tell me, why? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cult Icon Posted April 18, 2017 Share Posted April 18, 2017 21 hours ago, *Luna* said: What exactly are you trying to say with "you don't know the details of friends -> relationship"?? That I don't know how it works? Lol. Not every friendship OR relationship starts the same, believe it or not. Not all couples their story starts with "they jumped in bed after meeting 10 minutes earlier and they lived happily ever after". This wasn't even about marriage or children, my comment was about it absolutely not being true that a woman always knows BEFORE she even talks to a man if she wants to jump in bed with him or not. Sure it happens, but it definitely isn't the case all the time. Quite obvious that when I make statements of that sort, I mean "generally". Strong sexual attraction is essential in relationships. Your story, that you bring up, is to me clearly the case of a couple where the woman makes concessions with her sexual side. The key difference between male and female attraction in long term relationships is that the female is concerned with male character/resources more than physical sexual attraction. The extreme is the gold digger/trophy-wife marriage, where the young girl (eg. Ginta Lapina, Anna Nicole Smith, Xenia Deli) couple with an ugly old man that they are friends with. Did you know that many gold digger marriages have the ugly old man 'allow' their wives to have short term casual sex with handsome young men, in order to keep the relationship in balance? I can't get this salesman at my firm to shut up about the time he was the sex toy of a trophy wife. And the rest of your post..I never made such a statement and you are mixing things up. I tell the woman in the first 5-15 minutes that I am interested in her sexually and the rest develops accordingly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Luna* Posted April 18, 2017 Share Posted April 18, 2017 2 hours ago, Cult Icon said: Quite obvious that when I make statements of that sort, I mean "generally". Strong sexual attraction is essential in relationships. Your story, that you bring up, is to me clearly the case of a couple where the woman makes concessions with her sexual side. The key difference between male and female attraction in long term relationships is that the female is concerned with male character/resources more than physical sexual attraction. The extreme is the gold digger/trophy-wife marriage, where the young girl (eg. Ginta Lapina, Anna Nicole Smith, Xenia Deli) couple with an ugly old man that they are friends with. Did you know that many gold digger marriages have the ugly old man 'allow' their wives to have short term casual sex with handsome young men, in order to keep the relationship in balance? I can't get this salesman at my firm to shut up about the time he was the sex toy of a trophy wife. And the rest of your post..I never made such a statement and you are mixing things up. I tell the woman in the first 5-15 minutes that I am interested in her sexually and the rest develops accordingly. Not sure how you expect people to automatically know that when you make such statements, that you mean in general. Maybe make that a little more clear next time to avoid confusion/mixing up? I don't deny that sexual attraction is a must if a relationship is going to last, but it sure is not the only important thing. And I'm afraid I can't comment on these so called "gold digger marriages" because I for one don't believe everything I read about them or hear about them. I'm not saying that these type of marriages don't exist, but believe it or not, there are actually couples out there where the man is MUCH older than the woman, and it has absolutely nothing to do with her being a "gold digger" or whatever it is most people assume. For some strange reason people can't seem to believe that there are young women attracted to much older men, for so many reasons that have nothing to do with his status or how much $$$ he has. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sanni Posted April 18, 2017 Share Posted April 18, 2017 Yeah, I’ve seen pictures where Xenia’s husband looks quite youthful and handsome. Plus, all the gifts he gives her since she loves flowers can make her feel loved. We’ll see how much true love and companionship there is between them but I don’t think that it’s a straight up looking-to-get-his-money situation. Anna Nicole Smith’s husband being a billionaire was definitely the main reason she married him but I think the scenario wasn’t as cut and dry “gold digger marries rich old man” story as people like to think. She was abused as a child and when they started their relationship, she was working as a stripper to support her son. He wanted to take care of both of them and didn’t care what anyone had to say about her. She also didn’t accept his marriage proposals until she had made a name for herself in modelling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frenchkiki Posted April 18, 2017 Share Posted April 18, 2017 12 hours ago, Cult Icon said: I think this is an urban myth. I believed this myself for a while- but now I believe that women think about sex around as much as men do. They only hide it better due to social conditioning and fear (more to lose from getting pregant, physically weaker and less physically aggressive). In fact, women's fantasies are far more involved than mine (or men's) have ever been. Men tend to think of having sex with lots of women and without much depth while female fantasies tend to be more complicated and kinky. Yes, that's me. I think about sex many times a day and my fantasies are highly pornographic. Super kinky. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frenchkiki Posted April 18, 2017 Share Posted April 18, 2017 15 hours ago, Stromboli1 said: I don't like being around a lot people, but I do like learning & listening about cultures from different countries in a small group or one on one setting. I would probably ask you numerous questions about a variety of things. Board game nights are awesome to meet new people and I prefer doing that instead of going out to dinner. I'm kind of ghetto in the sense of doing that dress up & impressing stuff because that's not me at all, doesn't mean I can't do it though. @Cult Icon is going to be buried in your backyard. I probably wouldn't meet someone at their place for starters, a neutral public place would be more preferable. It seems that you are a good judge of character so the men you invite over don't try any shit with you. Women would never to agree to meet guys at their place when they're trying to get to know each other better, sends too many red flags. Rapists & serial killers are usually sexually depraved and that's one of the reasons why they do what they do until they (serial killers) start getting pleasure and thrills from doing their acts. Men would be a lot better off if we didn't think about sex all the time. I haven't been to a public library in a long time. In America usually weirdos only frequent public libraries. That's cool that you date in your own way. I hate being around of people and I could have written this myself (bold) uncanny! It's like me with No weirdos in my libraries. Other than me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frenchkiki Posted April 18, 2017 Share Posted April 18, 2017 28 minutes ago, Sanni said: Yeah, I’ve seen pictures where Xenia’s husband looks quite youthful and handsome. Plus, all the gifts he gives her since she loves flowers can make her feel loved. We’ll see how much true love and companionship there is between them but I don’t think that it’s a straight up looking-to-get-his-money situation. Anna Nicole Smith’s husband being a billionaire was definitely the main reason she married him but I think the scenario wasn’t as cut and dry “gold digger marries rich old man” story as people like to think. She was abused as a child and when they started their relationship, she was working as a stripper to support her son. He wanted to take care of both of them and didn’t care what anyone had to say about her. She also didn’t accept his marriage proposals until she had made a name for herself in modelling. I agree with you, I really think Ana Nicole was loving her 80 yo husband, like a daddy. She needed to have a man taking care of her and that's what he was doing. i also love older men not for their money but the way they look. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ILUVAdrianaLima Posted April 18, 2017 Share Posted April 18, 2017 Trump really is one piece of shit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cult Icon Posted April 18, 2017 Share Posted April 18, 2017 Male character/resources is part of what makes women horny Ugly old men must know how to regale the young girls about when and how he is a lion.. On the other hand, men know who they want to fuck in 3 seconds.. That's why we have this thing called dates.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frenchkiki Posted April 18, 2017 Share Posted April 18, 2017 47 minutes ago, ILUVAdrianaLima said: Trump really is one piece of shit Oh no! what again? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cult Icon Posted April 18, 2017 Share Posted April 18, 2017 6 hours ago, frenchkiki said: Yes, that's me. I think about sex many times a day and my fantasies are highly pornographic. Super kinky. Your horniness is cyclic? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stromboli1 Posted April 19, 2017 Share Posted April 19, 2017 8 hours ago, frenchkiki said: I hate being around of people and I could have written this myself (bold) uncanny! 8 hours ago, frenchkiki said: No weirdos in my libraries. Other than me! I'm talking mostly about people that go to the public library and watch porn on the computers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cult Icon Posted April 19, 2017 Share Posted April 19, 2017 40 minutes ago, Stromboli1 said: I'm talking mostly about people that go to the public library and watch porn on the computers. All the libraries that I'm familiar with are filled with students. when I was a college student at NYU, the infamous Bobst library (a huge, 12 story building with a hundred plus private rooms) was known to be a place where students sometimes had sex... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cult Icon Posted April 19, 2017 Share Posted April 19, 2017 One of my most traumatic experiences was learning that women do not love me (and men) the way that men expect them to. I learned it the hard way but thankfully a very young age. It is quite scary to know that many middle age men do not fully fathom this. Men love women for what they are (their bodies, their personalities) and, quite naively, how much they reflect the way that their own mothers loved them... but women love men for what they "could be" and their multifaceted value to them. Appearance and personality are just part of this. There's a performance and competitive pressure that's involved. The Disney/Chivalry romanticism/religious nonsense indoctrinates us all.. Women don't naturally have the same concept for self, honor and empathy either, leading to unexpected behavior. Cersei from GOT and Pike from the movie "Gone Girl" (2014) are extreme and exaggerated examples of feminine type behavior. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Luna* Posted April 19, 2017 Share Posted April 19, 2017 ^ You seriously make it sound like women are unable to love men or anyone for that matter for who they are, and not for this "what they could be" nonsense. Blaming Disney for that is just laughable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cult Icon Posted April 19, 2017 Share Posted April 19, 2017 ^ You should have more consideration for other people's views, instead of all the "straw man" and rhetorical tactics. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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