My main problem is that if the women in here are telling the truth, somewhere between 1/3 and 1/2 of all women we meet would be mostly interested in kindness. I think you'll find most men will tell you their experiences about the matter are slightly different. That is all. I have no problem admitting that physical appearance is an important factor in determining if someone is a potential gf or not. It's probably the single most important thing upon first meeting someone, and then gradually becomes less important, but I doubt it ever leaves anyone's top two or three. Now, of course most people won't stay with a person who is good-looking but has a shitty personality. However, people who are quite the opposite don't even get dates! Think about it, how many attractive jerks do you know who have trouble getting dates? Now, how many sweet unattractive people do you know who couldn't get a date if it saved their life? Now, if most people didn't think looks were all that important, how can that be? Shouldn't the attractive jerks be the ones sitting at home alone and the sweet ugly people getting all the attention? Now we all know that isn't true, and that is simply because most people, both men and women, have physical attractiveness as the most or one of the most important requirements for their gf/bf. Will a nice good-looking guy be more successful than a mean good-looking guy? Sure. But both of those guys will be more popular with the opposite sex than a kind ugly guy. It's just the way we are wired. And I don't understand why so many people deny that this very important aspect is equally important to them as it is to 99% of the people out there. Trust me people. If 50% of all people wanted nothing more than kindness from their partner, the world would be a very different place indeed. Right now, we're still stuck in the phase where we'll end up with the most attractive person we can drag back to our cave. Kindness is a plus, not the our core requirement.