I find that as a boy, you have to be on your game when you dance with a girl. Especially one that's very good or has a very nice body. First off theres dancing ability. Can't just dance around like a fool out there. If you aren't comfortable with your dance skills as a guy, then go to YouTube and watch some hip hop videos. It really helps. Also watch your footwork when dancing and don't step on the girl's foot. At least but not least you can't get too "excited". In other words, don't "pop" one when you bump and grind. I'm assuming that freaks the heck out of most girls...at least the ones around my age. Like I said earlier, I was dancing with this one Asian girl in Mexico at a club. It was for like twenty minutes at least. Bumping and grinding. And she was full of energy. In addition to having to keep all of those "personal" rules of mine intact, I was a little buzzed so I had to pay extra attention to keeping my balance and not stepping on her feet or falling off the edge of the platform we were on. But due to my "resolve" she seemed more comfortable. I'm assuming this because she soon moved my hands closer around her waist and lower. See what happens when you play your cards right? I just wish I had more resolve outside the club when I hit on women.