ham147 you said they have been dating for 4 years not 10, the inference being that if they had been dating for 10 years... then... they should be married -> because it would be wrong of CJ to take 10 years to propose -> because 4 years is not too long but 10 would be -> therefore it follows that the longer you date the more inappropriate it becomes to not propose and that by saying 4 not 10, you've delineated what the boundary of appropriateness is. therefore you did not need to say "wait" or "wait 10 years", since by implication that is what any reasonable person would conclude from what you are saying. marrying young is not a problem... the people getting married are the potential problem. its a little demeaning to suggest that a young marriage wouldn't work, and it is hubris to suggest that marrying later would work out better. many of Lorena's friends are of a similar age... yet they married young. they are also of the same generation... and yet they felt that it was appropriate to get married. just because some people don't want to get married, does not mean everyone thinks the same. Lorena is from a modest background, she isn't part of the liberal elite, therefore it is perfectly reasonable to think she may have wanted to get married from a young age. Many models - despite their high profile status and presence within high society - do not share all the views of the liberal elites. They often get married young and have kids soon thereafter. how many models only got married in their mid 40s and then had kids? that's what actors do. you can see that in CJ and Lorena's posts, though they certainly are of means, they don't live like Hollywood celebs. it would be fair to conclude that they don't also share Hollywood's values.
concluding on the basis of messy divorce that 2 years is the threshold for whether the marriage will succeed or not, is prime cherry picking. Plenty of marriages succeed even when the amount of time dating was short, likewise healthy marriages can fall apart after decades, simply dating longer will not work out all the kinks or potential problems. the persons in the relationship are the ones who will make or break it. if CJ and Lorenas relationship is as healthy as SM makes it seem, then their relationship can only continue to flourish and produce more fruit. perhaps the reason these two have a healthy relationship is because while they were dating... they lived together... in a sense they acted as though they were married, and we all know that when you live with someone that is the acid test for any relationship.