I am a pervert. If I am not, I don't know who is. I can't help who I am. My mind is what it is. I can control my actions, but I can't control my thoughts and sexuality. Just like a gay can't just stop being a gay, a pervert can't just stop being a pervert. I have really sick thoughts in my head, a lot of them, but I would NEVER act them out without the consent of other people. My perverts thoughts do not respect other people, but I do.
That is something important to understand. We don't have our sexuality to respect other people. Respect comes elsewhere: Empathy, kindness and also social contract. I don't think perversions are categorically a negative thing. It depends on the context. If a dominant woman wants to be served by a submissive man it is certainly seen as perverted, but since there is consent there are no problems.
In my perverted mind I may want to own Victoria Justice as my sex slave. I'd grope her naked body hard causing her a lot of discomfort and pain. I would fuck her and use her any way I please. I'd punish her harshly for not serving me well. However, all those horrible things I'd do to the "mental image" of Victoria Justice, not the person. In real life if I was lucky enough to meet her I would be very respectful toward her, because it's her, the real human being, not the mental image of a very sexy and ultra-cute young woman I have in my poor mind from the pictures I have seen of her. I won't apologize my perverted mind. Having such thoughts is part of being a human being. Victoria Justice has the right to consider me a pervert, because that's what I am. She has the right to find me a disgusting creature. She has also the right to have her own perversions and it those perversions she can do to me whatever she wants. Maybe she wants to castrate a pervert like me? That's perfectly ok and I would not like her any less, but if she was to castrate me in real life she would need my consent. I'd let her do a lot of things to me, but I am not sure I'm willing to be castrated for her because I am a total loser.
Perversions won't go anywhere, but we can recognize them being part of who we are and maybe that helps us control them in ways that make them as harmless as possible. For women I recommend thinking it this way: Consider real life groping a serious and gross disregard of your sanctity and privacy, but when a guy gropes you in his sick mind please be flattered. He can grope anyone in his mind and he chose to grope YOU for a reason. In my perverted mind Victoria Justice is my sex slave, not Paris Hilton. That's because I find Victoria Justice very attractive, sexy and ultra-cute while I don't find Paris Hilton attractive at all. Should Paris Hilton feel better for not being groped by me in my perverted mind? I don't think so.
This is my male perspective of my male perversions. Females here can comment on it from their perspective. Females and males are a bit different. Males really want to grope. Maybe it's a biological thing for males to make sure the female is healthy to have children. Males are visual and want to see "everything" and that's why men want to see women naked. It's kind of ironic that men WANT to see pussy pics, but women are not that eager to show them while men want to sent women "dick pics", but women in general find it gross and do not want to see them.
I am a small and weak male. My dick is small. I am unattractive to females. I am socially awkward and I probably have low emotional intelligence. My self-confidence is very low. I am a virgin and an incel. Can you really blame me for suffering chastity for TRUE Goddess Roselyn Sanchez and groping Victoria Justice in my perverted mind? That's all I have. Maybe it's easy to put perversions aside when you have a normal satisfying sex life in a relationship, but I wasn't lucky enough in the gene lottery to have that. That's why it pisses me of when us perverts are condemned. Normal people don't have a clue how much it sucks to be me.
