apeman Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 So girls tell us, how it is, a real man or romantic lover ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ack Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 Why can't we be both? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SympathysSilhouette Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Yeah, I don't see how those two are mutually exclusive... Unless you consider only boorish jerks to be real men... Speaking of which... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mylovelyangel Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 How about some definitions here. People have different opinions on what each is. Honestly, I mean what is a "real" man? Having emotions and romance doesn't make you a "real" man? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ve.ro.nika Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 both... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ophelia_Immortal Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Romantic Lover Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ve.ro.nika Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 REAL MAN for real life, ROMANTIC LOVER for romantic romance... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irenistiQ Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 REAL MAN for real life, ROMANTIC LOVER for romantic romance... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SympathysSilhouette Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 REAL MAN for real life, ROMANTIC LOVER for romantic romance...So you're saying you don't consider romance a part of real life? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
apeman Posted January 11, 2008 Author Share Posted January 11, 2008 REAL MAN for real life, ROMANTIC LOVER for romantic romance... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mbinebri Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 REAL MAN for real life, ROMANTIC LOVER for romantic romance...So you're saying you don't consider romance a part of real life? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lassaelia Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Both. A guy can be romantic and be a real man. It's funny because im a Psychology major and just he other day in class we were discussing how men are just as emotional but society doesn't allow them to show their emotion. This starts from when we are babies. Parents will watch baby girls more, make sure they don't run around too much. Parents will say careful you'll get hurt and if they cry it's okay honney. With male babies it's different. This guy in my church was letting his baby run around everywhere. I told him what if he falls. His answer was he's a tough little guy. Same thing happened with a grandmother that let her grandson run around. Finally when he crashed into the wall and had blood coming out of his nose she decided to hand on to him. But even then when she had him cleaned up she was telling him how he was supposed to be atough little guy and not cry. We see this is elementary schools also. If you're a guy and your friends see you cry they'll mock "what are you some kind of girl" or "you're a wuss" while girls will get the comment "girls are such crybabies" meaning it's okay if you cry because you're a girl but with guys it isn't okay. Then in your teens you hear guys say "girls are so emotional". Our teacher went on to say that they let out their emotions with agressive behavior because it's the only way they are allowed to if they ever feel depressed or stressed. She gave us this example of when her father came back from the persian gulf war all the women in the house gave him hugs and spoke of how much they missed him. While with her bother the father just gave him a hard pat on the back. She went into this whole scientific explanation about it too but I'd write a novel if I told you all about that. What is the defenition of man anyways. Because last time I checked if you have a dick between your legs your considered a man. As long as they don't behave as feminine as I am I don't have a problem. This is kind of like asking what do you look for in a real woman. What would you define as real woman. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irenistiQ Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Both. A guy can be romantic and be a real man. It's funny because im a Psychology major and just he other day in class we were discussing how men are just as emotional but society doesn't allow them to show their emotion. This starts from when we are babies. Parents will watch baby girls more, make sure they don't run around too much. Parents will say careful you'll get hurt and if they cry it's okay honney. With male babies it's different. This guy in my church was letting his baby run around everywhere. I told him what if he falls. His answer was he's a tough little guy. Same thing happened with a grandmother that let her grandson run around. Finally when he crashed into the wall and had blood coming out of his nose she decided to hand on to him. But even then when she had him cleaned up she was telling him how he was supposed to be atough little guy and not cry. We see this is elementary schools also. If you're a guy and your friends see you cry they'll mock "what are you some kind of girl" or "you're a wuss" while girls will get the comment "girls are such crybabies" meaning it's okay if you cry because you're a girl but with guys it isn't okay. Then in your teens you hear guys say "girls are so emotional". Our teacher went on to say that they let out their emotions with agressive behavior because it's the only way they are allowed to if they ever feel depressed or stressed. She gave us this example of when her father came back from the persian gulf war all the women in the house gave him hugs and spoke of how much they missed him. While with her bother the father just gave him a hard pat on the back. She went into this whole scientific explanation about it too but I'd write a novel if I told you all about that. What is the defenition of man anyways. Because last time I checked if you have a dick between your legs your considered a man. As long as they don't behave as feminine as I am I don't have a problem. This is kind of like asking what do you look for in a real woman. What would you define as real woman. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ack Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 What is the defenition of man anyways. Because last time I checked if you have a dick between your legs your considered a man. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SympathysSilhouette Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 REAL MAN for real life, ROMANTIC LOVER for romantic romance... So you're saying you don't consider romance a part of real life? You help keep me sane, SS. We're a dying breed, Matt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
red_ed Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 My IQ just went down another point Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mylovelyangel Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 REAL MAN for real life, ROMANTIC LOVER for romantic romance... So you're saying you don't consider romance a part of real life? You help keep me sane, SS. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mylovelyangel Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 My IQ just went down another point Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Portuguesa Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 i guess people assume a real man isnt willing to be intimatebut i think i speak for all girls when i say, i want a man who isnt afraid to be emotional or open up, or be sensitive. but i also want a man who is strong. that is a real man. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SympathysSilhouette Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 There are no real and fake men. Frankly, the mythos of the man is the last thing western societies have to shed if they really want to get rid of the patriarchate altogether. Of course, this is never going to happen. But it should. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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