yes cult, that's really nice to explain me all these things but did i ask explications ? did i say i didn't understand why i changed ? as i couldn't understand something as logic by myself ? i just said, i changed, i didn't ask how it was possible. i know how i changed because it comes from my own desire, of my will. and instead of be spontaneous born, never change and be immortal, everything include brain, and perceptions must change and we don't need a schema to understand it. so for me that's a cheap philosophy (or whatever you want).
so yes, thing can change but for me go back to the "oh my god, he's so sexy, i really would like to be his girlfriend" should be a huge regression, as i said i opened my mind because of my will, so i don't understand why now or in the future i would like to close it. it should be totally stupid and senseless. love superficially someone for the things he could represent and not for who he is. beauty is ok when you're not able to communicate with the person, you're superfical and you can spend years without interesting conversation. for me falling in love with with somone because of his beauty is stupid. as i already said, when you're in love with someone you always think he's a beautiful person, so why focus on people's beauty ?
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you're taking unmanageable risks
i did it because i know it was possible, because society and history show that tastes could be different and our perceptions are modlable. so i decided to have to have my own tastes and stopped to follow what the society choose for me.
so yes, the risk could be stop to be leaded my society, such a drama! it doesn't mean i don't respect laws or i will star to eat poo. just beauty was something who's trapped and limited my relationship. i have the feeling now, i'm more tolerant.
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Death, sickness, suffering, and violence should scare you, because it's highly unpleasant and because this person would soon no longer be there for you to love. Having a sexless relationship, no housing, no cash flow is another mountain of difficulty and work.
so you mean, because i'm a sick person, i just should stop all my relationships and become a none ?
"for you to love" so this is no love, just business. love someone because he loves you and bring you something. by the way, i never said live without money, sex etc (you don't need a lover for it) just you don't need these things to love someone and for me a true love is something who only take care of this love and who's bared all all the rest.
be scared by sickness, death, should be refused what we are, and play the struthio. put the head in the sand when thing gone bad. if everybody were scared by sick or dying people, medecine should be really worst and couldn't evolve. people should reject by society (maybe they should live in special camp ?)
strangely, the happiest periode of my life and where i really learnt about life was when i lived in hospital. i lived with dying or malformed people like phocomelia, i even met someone with a neurofibromatosis sickness (yes, like jpseph merrick) with a head who make the twice of a normal head.
you can't understand how incredible were these people, because they were rejected by society so their life style, perception, conversations were really more different and difference make us evolve. this often is "different" people who make change society, the rest of people are just too busy to copy cat their neighbours and stay trapped in the conformist, a kind of intolenrance, where they can't evolve.
dying people made me understood how important is life, and how stupid is to lose your time to try to be perfectly beautiful to please to someone you couldn't love or be interested by who you are if you weren't beautiful. as you were obligated to be beautiful to be allowed to speak and be loved. why lose your time for/with people who superficially love you when you could be with people who really love you as you are ?
and with these people there is not hypocrisy. they expect nothing from life or other people because they know they will die. so maybe sometimes they are rude, but they aren't here to seduce and play the "olala, you SOOO coool, so beautiful, so nice" like they lived in the world of teletubies. but in same time they were more tolerant because they weren't the stereotype of the perfect human and learn to accept and be happy as they were. and, in the end, i think their values were really better than the ones of people who try to stay far away of this kind of life.
when you're conscious of your own death, you stop to lose your time with bulls*ts. i don't critic beautiful people and say if you're beautiful, you're supercial because some people considerate as beautiful by our society can be really intelligent and interesting too and the ugly ones can be totally stupid and boring, but i critic this obsession of beauty and the fact in the end, you realise beauty is nothing, and this obsession is really more negative than positive and tolerant and i think that's really sad to build a wall between people just because of it.
"The side of humanity that cherishes love, affiliation, and group solidarity is biological and genetic in nature" so maybe you should visite the assocation where i make voluntary to help homeless people, so you could understand that 95% of people must have the strange genetic (and that's why so there are never enough blood or organs donations) and the day where they decided to help someone we hear talking about it during years like they were super heros and everybody mush cheer them. they are ridiculous and it's break my heart to see so many different people rejected by society and then become homeless because people reject them and they even able to have a normal job. it's kill me to see intelligent, funny, amazing live in the street and die just because their look is not conventional.
love and tolerance sound better to my ears.
Arielle,
as i already said, for me, it's easier to think someone ugly is beautiful than someone stupid is intelligent. and i think there are enough intelligent people on earth to avoid a relationship with a jerk (ugly or beautiful)